Happy Sunday!



Good morning! 

Good morning, everyone! I hope that your sunday is going great! Man, what I a week. My birthday was on thursday and I just stayed at home. My dad got me roses, a birthday cake and a gorgeous card! It made me cry. Check it out!


Here is the gorgeous card that he got me and it bought me to tears!

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My dad is so awesome! It was my first time ever getting roses. I know, crazy, huh? I just dated a lot of assholes who were just not for me. But, I’m on a different path now. Now, I’m looking to date with the purpose of marriage. Anyway, that’s another topic for another day. My week was very long as far as school wise goes. I still have tons of reading to do and a 5 page paper due next sunday. But, I am going to get it outlined today and I’ll start writing it on christmas eve. I mean, it’s just me. My mom is coming for xmas and we are cooking together. That will be fun. I am looking forward to cooking. She came over this weekend and made fried chicken and spaghetti. Boy, was it good!

School Life…

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I swear this research class is something else. This is what I’ll be doing all day!! Reading. I do have to go to the grocery store, but other than that, I’ll be reading. I’ve never done so much reading. My Research and Design methods books is easy to understand, but the book, A Primer in Theory Construction is SO boring and dry!


This is my nightmare right now, lol.  Of course I got a used book and it’s already highlighted with the same kind that I use so I know what I highlighted lol. I have to read the first 5 chapters in order to get caught up. As I said, I really like the other book that I am caught up on. But, this book! Ugh….pray for me. Has anyone read this book? What I do like is that it will be used in other research classes that I have to take. All in all, I’m loving school. I just wish that I had the time to really focus on my writing while in school. I will make the time for it though because it’s really important to me.

Reading Material for Writers

A Writer With Something To Say:

I have about 7 of these books already. But, definitely check them out!

Originally posted on Writing and Rambling:


As promised, I’m back with further gift ideas for the writers in your life, with a focus on buying them things to read. You may, of course, choose to simply provide your special writer with an enormous gift card to the book retailer of your choice, and no doubt that will make them very happy. However, if you want to be a bit more specific and personal, here are a few recommendations to check out.

Certain writing-related books get named quite frequently. They are wonderful classics, and deserve to be mentioned, but you should also keep in mind that many writers already have dogeared copies of these babies. But for the sake of thoroughness, I’ll run through them:

Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott — General writing advice mixed with personal history/anecdotes.

On Writing by Stephen King — Part memoir, part excellent writing advice.

Story by Robert McKee — On…

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Is academia really worth it?

A Writer With Something To Say:

To all of the PhD and even college students, I think you should read this article. It has some great points that I think should be questioned. Check it out. I love this blog! I will have an updated post this weekend. Guess, what? Today is my birthday! Yes, I am officially in the 30 club now! Yikes!! Thanks again for the support.

Originally posted on The Thesis Whisperer:

This post was written Dr Kathy McKay,a Postdoctoral Research Fellow at the University of New England. Her work revolves around listening to stories of suicide, healing and resilience within communities and within literature. It’s a sobering reflection on this academic life – but I thought it articulated views and feelings that need an airing in the current climate of government cuts to higher education and research.

Screen Shot 2014-07-27 at 9.37.10 amIn January this year, Rachel L. Swarns wrote a piece for The New York Times that scared me so much, it’s taken until now to write about it.

‘Crowded Out of Ivory Tower, Adjuncts See a Life Less Lofty’ follows the employment trajectory of an early-career academic in America, James D. Hoff. Since being awarded his PhD, he’s had no fixed or full-time employment, rather relying on subject-by-subject contracts at more than one institution. There’s no certainty or security as subjects can be…

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What a week!

Happy Sunday!!! 



Hey guys! I’ve missed you! This week has been bananas! I’m trying to get settled into my new apartment, but I’ve been so exhausted. I still have boxes to unpack, books to put away. I will get to it though. The only books that I do have out are the ones that I’m using for school this quarter. Trying to get used to the new place, new bus schedule, it’s exhausting. But, I’m still loving it.  Sunday’s for me means getting ready for the work week. Something I dread. Since I’ve moved into my place, I’m now cooking for the week and having left overs from weekend’s dinner as lunches as well. If you haven’t tried it like that, you really should!

PhD Life 

Psychology Phd

Lord  help me!! I’m in my first research class and already I want to pull my hair out.  It’s only the end of week 2 and I have to take an online test that takes 3 hours!! I can’t believe it. All I can do is my best and just take it one step at a time. I’m thinking about dissertation topics now and I pretty much narrowed it down to a topic about sex addiction. I think it’s clever! It will definitely keep people interested that’s for sure. I want to talk about how people who are married with sex addictions, are able to still be happily married. Does that make sense? I may have to play with it a little bit, but that’s the gist of it. I want to do a quantitative or a mixed methods research study about it. Thus far, my PhD journey has been great. Do I have fears? Of course I do! Who wouldn’t. I don’t want to fail anything!! My goal and one of my dream jobs is to be a researcher. I’d love to work in academia or for like a non-profit trying to find cures for things. It doesn’t matter just as long as I’m passionate about the project, you know? I tend to get bored easily, but that’s because I don’t think that I am challenged enough or I have SO many ideas for things that I am over the place. Like I am most of the times, lol. Growing up in Wilmington, De, my grandmother raised me, my mother was on drugs and I saw my dad on the weekends. College wasn’t instilled in me because no one in my family went. My mother graduated high school, My dad did as well and then went into the National Guards. My grandmother graduated from high school then started to have her kids. So, when I graduated high school, my goal was to just get a normal 9-5. My high school advisor saw the potential in me and told me to apply for college. I ended up getting a full scholarship to the community college in my city. Since then, I realized that school and education was so important. Plus, I didn’t want to be a product of my environment. Today, I take school very seriously like I would a job. I try to tell everyone that I come in contact with to go to college. No matter how old you are. But, I do understand that college isn’t for everyone. There are people who great jobs and never went to college. Kudos to them. My point is that I want to be successful in everything that I do.

My apartment …

The Move

Whew! Let me tell you. My clothes are still in boxes and I’ve only managed to clean my kitchen and bathroom. I still have to mop my living and bedroom. I also have to get wood or a duralog so that I can test this fireplace that I’m so excited to try! The kitchen is very spacious, bedroom isn’t as big as I thought it was, but that’s okay. I’m grateful to be in my own place to call home. I just need to give it a little love and it will be home! One thing that has been making me happy is that I’m cooking up a storm! I’ve made breakfast, and have been cooking dinners for the week since I work crazy hours. I love my Monday’s and Tuesdays though because I get off of work early, lol.

My writing… 



This section should totally  be blank. The only thing that I have been writing are discussion boards and papers for school. I’m SO embarrassed to even call myself writer right now. Life is a little on the busy side, but I will finish my books soon and start pitching my screenplays, etc again. I have so many ideas in my mind as well about future projects. My mind goes a mile a minute I swear.

To my new subscribers, I appreciate you, dearly. I will try and post 3 times a week now that I’m somewhat settled, lol. What’s been going on with you guys?

My First Research Class!!


Good morning! I swear I’m consumed with so much energy on this sunday morning. I woke up at 6:30 and have been up since. Although, I set my alarm for 5 am and it didn’t go off ( or at least I didn’t hear it go off). So, I will be moving in my apartment officially on Friday. I get my keys on tuesday and my dad will start loading things into the apartment. I can’t wait to show you guys pictures once I’m settled in with furniture and all of that stuff! I must say that I’m very excited to be living on my own again. I tell ya, it’s been a year too long. But, I’m  back and will be cooking up a storm. Well, maybe studying up a storm. I’m taking my first research class that starts TOMORROW! So, what I’m doing now is getting the reading and discussion board completely today, since I won’t have internet until saturday.


For my Research Design and Methods class, I have 3 books to read. Mind you, I’m already working full-time as an account manager. But, what I like about that about is I get an hour for lunch so I can always study or do homework on my lunch break. I have already read the first chapter in one book and I LOVED it!! Learning about qualitative, quantitative and mixed methods designs is so interesting to me. Well, at least it is in this book. I’m not going to lie some books are DRY and BORING as ever. But this one is keeping my attention. I don’t know if it’s because I’m really excited about the class or what. I also have my residency to go to on Dec. 26 -30th so I’m really excited for that. I decided to take the one class with the residency. But, next quarter, I will take two classes for sure.  School is going well. To those who are going for their PhD or just in college period, in the comment, let me know how it’s going. Trust me, I know the struggle is real!

My Writing Process

Writing…let’s see….I HAVENT done it! I feel like such a loser, lol. Granted, I know I’m  busy with other things, but I have to find some kind of quality time to get writing in. But, I know what my problem is. It’s YOUTUBE. I’m SO busy watching vlogs on youtube such as GabeBabeTV or Bamachick1101 and It’s Judy’s Life, that I will watch them hours on end when I could be writing. I know that I had a new cover posted already, but I still have to finish the last book. You remember, the one that I was doing for Nano last year, was almost finished and then my computer crashed. Yes, that one! It makes me so mad, that I have to pick up from a few chapters before. But, hey, I have to get it done right? Put up or shut up, is what my dad says. I will start writing again once I’m all moved in. This way there will be complete silence. I’m a work in progress when it comes to writing. But, on the flip side, I sold some of my other books at work the other day. That’s a plus! They encourage me to get back into writing. One girl said that she LOVED my first book Through Her Eyes and wanted to know what else I had. It made me feel good because I was really doubting myself as a writer lately. Just because I haven’t had the time to do it. Then I was thinking, ” Am I still a writer? Is this what my heart surrounds?” Of course, my list of goals and dream jobs have slightly changed, but I know what I will be successful in something. What a way to use all of my talents composed into one extraordinary job! Here is the goal. I still want to be able to write my books, screenplays, TV shows, etc…basically still be a writer and I now want to be a researcher as well. I’d like to work in academia as a researcher which consists of mostly qualitative research. Can I do it? I think I can. It will take a lot of hard work and focus, but I can do whatever I put my mind to.

What are your  goals and dreams?

7 Essentials Every Author Needs to Know About Twitter

A Writer With Something To Say:

These are some GREAT tips. Writers, please check it out!

Originally posted on Kristen Lamb's Blog:

Hmmm, looks like a ticket to TWITTER JAIL

Hmmm, looks like a ticket to TWITTER JAIL

I’m still delusional that I might finish NaNoWriMo. I can write 16,000 more words in five days, right? Sigh. I’ve been away from the blog because I’m in the trenches with the fellow Nanos. Also I really needed to take a bit of a break. To help me with my pseudo-sabbatical? The AMAZING Social Media Maven Marcy Kennedy is here to help you learn how to use Twitter effectively. 

Using Twitter effectively is important. Twitter is a tool, but we can look like a tool or act like a tool if we rush in not knowing what we are DOING.

Great news is I have done all the dumb stuff so you don’t have to. Marcy might have, but I can’t speak for her (and she is kind of a Hermione) so she probably was smart enough to learn from MY dumb stuff…..

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Happy Thanksgiving


Hey Readers! I just wanted to wish each and everyone one of my subscribers a happy thanksgiving! I hope that you guys are spending times with your loved ones eating great food! Today, I will working ahead in school by reading a few chapters of two books. Later on, I’m going over my cousins house who is making turkey, string beans, mac n cheese, stuffing, and double eggs. I must say that I can’t wait. Also, my dad is cooking too, even though he has to work. He’s making Turkducken, mac n cheese, string beans, asparagus, ribs, pasta salad, blueberry cobbler, sweat potato pie, cheesecake and ice-cream. Let’s just say that I will be full and will have plenty of leftovers for lunch tomorrow since I have to work. #Prayforme I don’t want to gain too much weight! LOL.

Here is the Turducken that I don’t want to try, lol.


Changes Always Happen

Hey Readers!

Good evening

I’m sorry for just posting updated posts, but once I get settled, I will be blogging 3 days a week! Man, so much has happened in the last post. Okay, you guys know I started a new job as an Account Manager and  it’s going great. This week was my first week in student loans and out of the 4 days I was on the floor, I collected on 3 out of the 4. I’m feeling very good about the job.

What’s been up with you guys? I hope that the writing is going well, especially for my Nano family. Speaking of Nano, let me just say, it’s not for me. I tried and with this new job and school, there was no way I could write. My work schedule is hectic. I work Mon-Tues 8-5 then Wed-Fri from 11:45-845. I catch the bus, so I leave my house almost 2 hours earlier. But, I have to do what I have to do. So, writing everyday for Nano would have been extremely hard. To those who participate and make it though, congrats to you!! I have nothing but respect for you. Since I am off on the weekends, I will be writing then.


So much change has occurred in this past month. But, I’m happy to announce that I got an apartment. It’s a big size one bedroom with a fireplace in the bedroom. I’m thrilled for it! I’m so excited to be moving into my own place again. Lord knows I have missed my own place. I look forward to cooking great food and just having my own privacy. I pretty much keep to myself so I won’t have company over often. Things are looking up. I have another book that I will be writing, once I finish this project that NEEDS to come to an end. I’m tired of saying what I’m going to do, I really need to do it. Same ole song, lol.   Oh, I finally have a publicist. His name is Jakeem and he works with tons of celebs in the Atlanta area like Karlie Redd, Tiny, Nicci Gilbert, and more. We structured a plan for me for next year. I will be doing tons of interviews, possibly speaking engagements and more. I’m so excited for what’s to come!! Not to mention school starts again on Dec.1st. Pray for me because it’s a research class. Ahhhh!!!!

Readers, what have you been up to? Let me know in the comments.

Review: Summer House With Swimming Pool



This was my first time reading a book by Herman Koch. One of my friends recommended it to me and I enjoyed it. I must say that this book was a VERY good read. I was not expecting a thriller to really be a page turner like it was. I don’t want to give away any spoilers, but I will say that I am glad that I got to read this book. I’m sorry that it took me a while to post the review,but between work, school and trying to read, it’s a hassle. I really enjoyed this book and will be buying more from this author.  I’m sorry that it’s taking me long to get the reviews up, but this was a good book.